Do you know what is <\/span>wrong<\/span> with the following four<\/b><\/span> \u2018don\u2019t\u2019<\/span>:<\/o:p><\/span>
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At your <\/span>office<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n
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1. I <\/span><\/span>don\u2019t<\/span> <\/span>want to be late.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
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At your restaurant<\/span> <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n
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\n
<\/a><\/div>\n
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\n<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n
2. I<\/span> <\/span>don\u2019t<\/span> <\/span>want the restaurant to give away my table.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
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At your tennis court<\/span><\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n
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\n<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n
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3. I<\/span> <\/span>don\u2019t<\/span> want a double fault.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
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At your home<\/span> <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n
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\n
<\/div>\n
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<\/a><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/p>\n
4. I <\/span>don\u2019t<\/span> want to argue.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n
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What is Wrong with ‘Don’t’<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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There is, of course, nothing wrong with the grammar. Yet, the more<\/span><\/span> you say to yourself using \u2018don\u2019t\u2019, the worse<\/span><\/span> the situation will be. Why<\/span><\/span>? <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n
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<\/a>Before you know why, go back to the last time you told yourself, \u2018Don\u2019t be nervous<\/span><\/span>.\u2019 Did it work? I mean, did it really work? (If it did, you may stop reading<\/span> this post.)<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n
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But if you pay close <\/span>attention to your mind, or your self-talk, do you notice anything special, or any pattern<\/span>? <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n
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\n<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n
Our mind (to be exact, the part we call unconscious<\/span>) is something weird<\/span>and strange<\/span>. What does that mean? It means our mind does not understand things in negative<\/span>. When you say \u2018I don\u2019t want to be late<\/span><\/span>\u2019, your mind will read it as \u2018I <\/span>don\u2019t<\/strike> want to be late<\/span><\/span>\u2019. <\/span>That is, the more you use \u2018<\/span>don\u2019t<\/span>\u2019 to encourage yourself, the <\/span>bigger trouble<\/span> you will get into.<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n
What Should You Say<\/b><\/span>
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\n<\/span><\/p>\n
<\/a><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n
As your mind cannot understand the negative, you have to talk to it, actually yourself, in the positive<\/span><\/span>. So \u2018I don\u2019t want to be late\u2019 becomes I am punctual<\/span><\/span> and the other three are: <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n
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\n<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n
(<\/span>At your restaurant<\/span>) <\/span>The restaurant <\/span>will \u2018reserve\u2019<\/span> the table for me. <\/span><\/div>\n
(<\/span>At your tennis court<\/span><\/span>) My serve is beautiful<\/span>.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n
(<\/span>At your home<\/span>) We live <\/span><\/span>in harmony<\/span>. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n

\n<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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\n <\/div>\n At your <\/span>office<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n	\n 1. I <\/span><\/span>don\u2019t<\/span> <\/span>want to be late.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
\n At your restaurant<\/span> <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n	\n \n <\/a><\/div>\n <\/span> \n \n<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n 2. I<\/span> <\/span>don\u2019t<\/span> <\/span>want the restaurant to give away my table.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span> \n<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
\n At your tennis court<\/span><\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n <\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n	\n 3. I<\/span> <\/span>don\u2019t<\/span> want a double fault.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
\n At your home<\/span> <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n	\n \n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/a><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/p>\n 4. I <\/span>don\u2019t<\/span> want to argue.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n What is Wrong with ‘Don’t’<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n \n There is, of course, nothing wrong with the grammar. Yet, the more<\/span><\/span> you say to yourself using \u2018don\u2019t\u2019, the worse<\/span><\/span> the situation will be. Why<\/span><\/span>? <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/a>Before you know why, go back to the last time you told yourself, \u2018Don\u2019t be nervous<\/span><\/span>.\u2019 Did it work? I mean, did it really work? (If it did, you may stop reading<\/span> this post.)<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n But if you pay close <\/span>attention to your mind, or your self-talk, do you notice anything special, or any pattern<\/span>? <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n Our mind (to be exact, the part we call unconscious<\/span>) is something weird<\/span>and strange<\/span>. What does that mean? It means our mind does not understand things in negative<\/span>. When you say \u2018I don\u2019t want to be late<\/span><\/span>\u2019, your mind will read it as \u2018I <\/span>don\u2019t<\/strike> want to be late<\/span><\/span>\u2019. <\/span>That is, the more you use \u2018<\/span>don\u2019t<\/span>\u2019 to encourage yourself, the <\/span>bigger trouble<\/span> you will get into.<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span> \n<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n What Should You Say<\/b><\/span> \n \n<\/span><\/p>\n <\/a><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n As your mind cannot understand the negative, you have to talk to it, actually yourself, in the positive<\/span><\/span>. So \u2018I don\u2019t want to be late\u2019 becomes I am punctual<\/span><\/span> and the other three are: <\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n <\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n (<\/span>At your restaurant<\/span>) <\/span>The restaurant <\/span>will \u2018reserve\u2019<\/span> the table for me. <\/span><\/div>\n (<\/span>At your tennis court<\/span><\/span>) My serve is beautiful<\/span>.<\/o:p><\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n (<\/span>At your home<\/span>) We live <\/span><\/span>in harmony<\/span>. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n \n<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n <\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Do you know what is wrong with the following four \u2018don\u2019t\u2019: At your office 1. I don\u2019t want to be late. At your restaurant 2. I don\u2019t want the restaurant to give away my table. At your tennis court 3. I don\u2019t want a double fault. At your home 4. I don\u2019t want to argue. What […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":635,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-58","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-spoken-english"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/08\/look-at-the-data-in-figure.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/58","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=58"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/58\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":663,"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/58\/revisions\/663"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/635"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=58"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=58"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mindpowerasia.org\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=58"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}